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 Can anyone advise me please? URGENT
 
nicola
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Can anyone advise me please? URGENT
Posted: 25 Dec 07 4:55 PM Modified By nicola on 12/25/2007 4:55:43 PM)
Hi , and merry christmas.
 I badly need help here please, my  MIL died on Friday, and we seem to have inherited a 43 yr old BIL with Huntingtons, I don't know what to do.
      I am happy for him to stay here for a while, but not indefinitely ( I have 4 children and am disabled myself).
     He has now stayed 5 nights, and that is ok, but there is no mention of going back to the house which he shared with MIL. He has been diagnosed about 3 years, and falls often.
     House is worth quite  a bit of money, and will says, that it has to be sold within 12 months from date of death. He doesn't know this.
   I am unsure whether he would really be able to manage alone, and have thought about buying a house with an annexe (everyone I have suggested this to, SCREAMS NO.
 Can anyone give any advise PLEASE, he isn't really any bother here, and it is the worst time of year to be alone, but 1 of my kids is having to share with another to accomodate him. I think I am mean in some ways, and all he really wants is a bit of company and a proper dinner, BUT that will change with the disease and I would not be able to manage.
 And do you know the worst of it?, MIL made me promise to look after him after she died.
   Any suggestions gratefully received xx
jahn627
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Joined
9/12/2007
Re: Can anyone advise me please? URGENT
Posted: 27 Dec 07 8:57 AM
Nicola, first, my heart and prayers go out to you. Not to sound mean, but, was there a trust of any kind set up before your mother died? Is there any LTC ins. for your brother? I presume he has health insurance- you need to look into what is covered. You mentioned he falls alot- so is he in the later early stages or the middle stages of the disease? Are there any other stipulations on the house- other than it is to be sold in a year's time? Maybe you could use the money for a PA or HHA for him (if it isn't covered in the insurance) or an assisted living arrangement? I really don't know- as I know that there are many more varibles in making such tough decisons. Had the Commonwealth of Massachusetts deemed him disabled? Or which ever of the other New England states? You could enlist help from a social worker or your clergy or whatever other groups you may belong to. Creating a stong and reliable support system is HARD- creating one with people who know your situation and can truely identify is alot harder. I pray for you and hope my small offerings offer some sort of help-
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